Crystal and I tried texting dad several times throughout the year and they would be undelivered. We knew we had been blocked. We even tested the theory we blocked each other and texted and tried to respond and it wouldn't go through just like it was doing with dad. My dad was not very tech savvy and he wouldn't know how to block a number. We knew what had happened but weren't on speaking terms with dad. He tried texting us and asking for Christmas list for the kids, but we couldn't respond.
Holidays are supposed to be a time of joy and enjoying family. Dad kicking us out of his life made this time sad. We had our family Christmas at my uncles house at Lake Spence. I will never forget his Charlie Brown Christmas tree (a branch he cut off a tree in his yard). Dad was supposed to be coming too but last minute said he had covid. We for the first time got to sit down with our aunts and uncles and explain everything we had discovered. Dad called my uncle and said that he was driving the three hour trip to drop the presents off for the kids. He drove up, unloaded presents by shoving them through a side door. He wouldn't even set foot through the door and left. She was in the truck with him. With as much sadness and tension as there was, we had a fun Christmas that will be remembered.
Time continues to go by as it does and that summer we were going on a trip to Disney World. My niece was in competitive hip-hop dancing and the world competition was there. Kristen and I were flying out of Dallas. We drove to Dallas and stayed with some family to get up and catch our flight the next morning. That evening Crystal called me. Dad had called her on her work number and let her know that he was having heart issues and they would be doing an angiogram. Crystal asked dad while he was on the phone why he had blocked us. He said he didn't but then also said he had got a new phone and maybe something happened when it got set-up that messed up. You can draw your own conclusions as to what actually happened, but as mentioned earlier, she does everything for dad and again he was not very tech savvy. He thought for a year he thought we weren't talking to him. Well at least this opened up a line of communication just a little bit.
The small talk communication that started happening and dad would start giving us little bits of information. We found out that when dad kicked her out of his house she started squatting in a trailer on her sons land. Even though she was kicked out, she would call dad about any and all little issues she had wherever she was living. First the trailer, then a lease-to-own camper and then a storage container being turned into a tiny home for her. There were so many different issues. Water leaks, heater not working, and all sorts of other things. Dad was doing all the work and all the construction on her tiny home. Due to health and age, it started taking him longer to get things done. She would stay with him at his house while things were getting fixed. We would ask dad about this and he would say she just needs a little help. He swore that she was not moving back in with him permanently, that she was just there until he could finish her home. Progress completely stopped on the tiny home and as a matter of fact, her son moved into the tiny home until he was able to get a house put on the land. She is officially moved back in with dad even though they are divorced.
I guess we will just have to accept this
Whatever it takes - to keep communication
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